Trauma

Many people carry the impact of trauma in both their physical body and mind, often without awareness. Trauma can effect how a person moves, lives their life, communicates and how they feel both physically as well as emotionally.

Trauma can happen to us in many different ways and can be either overt (obvious) or covert (hidden or subtle).

The trauma therapy that I provide is based on the internationally recognised work of Pia Mellody, a former Nurse and experienced Therapist who witnessed the need for a more specialised method of treating childhood developmental trauma at the renowned Meadows Clinic in Arizona, USA.

Examples of childhood trauma include:
Neglect-of core needs, such as food, clean clothes, hygiene and dental/health care.
Abandonment
Sexual abuse
Violence against you or other family members.
Lack of touch or physical nurturing.
Lack of healthy boundaries and guidance.
Demanding perfectionism.
Being over controlled.
Not being able to express your thoughts and ideas.
Not being able to have your needs met or express your wants.

The wounded child vs The adapted adult (wounded child).

“It is important to mention that early wounding (5 or below) surfaces differently than later wounding (6-17). The wounded child develops from trauma that occurs usually from birth to age 4. A child at this age is not mature enough to begin to deal with trauma. When this part of the self gets stimulated from adult trauma, the adult will begin to feel very vulnerable, flooded and dissociated.

The adapted adult (wounded child) develops from trauma that occurs from 6 through 17. This part of the self is mature enough to begin to deal with relational trauma. The strategies are immature, but they can give the child some sense of control. The oldest adapted child parents the earlier wounding through criticism, neglect and indulgence. When this part of the self gets stimulated from adult relationships, the adult will begin to either wall in, be unavailable and controlling, or will become yielding, enabling and manipulative. This often is the only sense of the “adult” the patient has. This is why it is important to confront the core issues and by doing so, develop a functional adult.” © Pia Mellody.

This approach to Trauma work enables you (the client) to:
Better understand the roots of your behaviour and problems today.
Better understand yourself, which allows you the freedom to move forward, breaking free from old negative thought processes and feelings.
Release shame and and other carried feelings.
Behave in a more moderate manner, containing your spontaneity (or conversely allowing your spontaneity) to a degree that brings you more joy and satisfaction.

We are all “Perfectly Imperfect” and the key to progress is firstly being helped to recognise and claim your own inherent worth, and not the value imposed upon you by others.

I normally anticipate that this stage of the therapy is achieved within just a few sessions. Some clients then see rapid progress through all their core issues while others may get stuck for a while on any one particular issue. However, with my support you can progress on this journey at a pace that’s right for you.